Every year I try to make resolutions. I don't make promises that I can't keep (for example: meet and befriend Brie Larson, become gal-pals, text daily and meet up weekly for drinks) but I do set goals for myself that are a challenge, better my life and, most importantly, have an end date.
Last year, I didn't set any goals for myself and I'd say 2017 was the hardest for me yet. Still grieving my mother's death while trying achieve the perfect suburban life left me feeling untethered and tired. I had no real end-game. Nothing that would let me feel accomplished. That's not to say that my family didn't have amazing experiences in the last year, but those experiences definitely gave light to parts of myself that should be worked on.
So, without further ado, here is what I promise myself in 2018 (in order of easily achievable to incredibly difficult but possible):
Reading used to be one of my favourite hobbies. Now, my hobbies include hate-reading tweets from republicans and stalking my friends'* Instagram feeds. While I still plan to enjoy these endeavours, I will also pick up a book once a month and finish it. 12 books before January 2019. First up: The Good People by Hannah Kent.
Drop the weight that I have gained since 2015
Finding the motivation to do more than reach for the next donut has been difficult for the past two years, and it shows. I need to change that, not just because it's better for my heart but it's better for my head. My goal is big but there is a number and I look forward to sharing it next January after I slip into an old pair of jeans that are currently collecting dust in the back of my closet.
Ask for help
This can include anything from dinner prep to asking someone to just sit down and talk me through things that are going through my mind. I often figure I will ask for help once I really need it, but that never comes to fruition. I, like most people I suspect, slog on, trying to get through the issue, smiling but completely overwhelmed. This year I'm promising myself that I will seek help before I even need it.
That's it. All cliche but all doable. However, if you do happen to run into Brie Larson and she's looking for a new BFF, send her my way.
*By 'friends', I mean Oprah and Reese Witherspoon